But it is about you
So you’ve recently gotten engaged and you and your beau have decided you just can’t get married without your loved ones.
That’s super exciting and, even though I am an elopement advocate, there’s something very powerful about committing your life to someone in front a group of folks who probably won’t be together under the same roof again. Like, ever.
But you’ve been sold the myth that your wedding day is your day [specifically as a bride, because groom who?]
This is wrong.
THOUGH YOUR WEDDING MAY BE ABOUT YOU, IT ISN’T FOR YOU; NOT REALLY.
It’s for your guests.
That being said, here are four simple ways to show your guests that you are a considerate and gracious host.
Keep the ceremony short
Yes, your guests love you.
Yes, the point of a wedding is the marriage.
But no one wants to sit through an hour long ceremony, so don’t make them.
Be sure to feed them
And don’t make them wait forever to eat.
Your food doesn’t have to be anything fancy, either.
I love a good cake and [boozy] punch reception or a spread of giant pies from the Italian AF pizzeria down the street.
Give them some booze
Most people are totally happy spending the evening drinking and talking with friends, especially if your wedding is the first time folks have seen each other in awhile.
If you want people to shake their grove thing, they’re more likely to do so (especially at a daytime wedding) if they are supplied liquid confidence.
Make sure they are environmentally comfortable
Use your wedding website to inform them of appropriate attire (ie, your shindig is outside, so dress for weather; or, they’re hiking up a mountain for the ceremony, so wear good shoes).
Don’t demand people to stay outside for cocktail hour when it’s 100 degrees out.
FOR YOUR OWN SANITY
Provide a registry, because they need gift guidance.
Even if you say no gifts, you will get gifts. I repeat: you will get gifts.
So if you don’t want a $300 mixer, tell them what you want.
Going rogue or staying traditional?
Our quiz may help you decide.